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I asked a stranger I’d known 1 day to fly across the world for me. Now we’re married

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I asked a stranger I’d known 1 day to fly across the world for me. Now we’re married

My palms were sweating as I refreshed the flight tracker again. Standing at Melbourne Airport, surrounded by emotional reunions and teary goodbyes, I wondered what I had done. After years of careful post-divorce dating, I’d never introduced a single woman to my children. Now, in one of the most impulsive decisions of my life, I’d invited a stranger to fly across the world to meet them.

Just three weeks earlier, I’d never have imagined this moment. My life had changed thanks to a music video shoot in East Austin, Texas, amidst hipsters nursing craft beers while dancing to bluegrass. I’d planned to have one drink before packing for my long flight home. But while everyone else was caught up in the free beer and festivities, Cecilia and I found ourselves in a corner, talking about everything from politics to movies to food. Before I knew it, four hours had passed, and my friends had left.

“I have to catch an early flight home tomorrow,” I said finally, my Aussie accent growing more pronounced after a few beers.

“That’s a shame,” she replied. It was a shame, I thought. 

When Cecilia and I met, I had a feeling we could be something special, but I was still taking a risk by changing my flight and then inviting her to fly across the world to stay with my family. Courtesy Ash Jurberg

“Would you like to meet up for a coffee tomorrow night?” I asked. Before she could answer, I was changing my flight on my phone. It was completely out of character; I hated missing time with my children. But something about Cecilia made me justify it — it was only one day, and I didn’t want to miss what felt like something that could be special. 

“Dad, you promised you’d be home tomorrow,” my son’s voice crackled through the phone the following day. I felt a pang of guilt. “I know, mate. I’ll be home tomorrow night instead.” One coffee with Cecilia had seemed worth missing bedtime stories. I just hadn’t expected that coffee to change everything.

Our coffee date turned into an all-night adventure through Austin’s streets, where we talked about nothing and everything. Walking down Sixth Street under the neon lights luring college kids into bars, I heard myself say something even more outrageous than the previous night: “Come to Melbourne next month.”

The words hung in the air, and I began to regret them. It was a 20-hour, expensive trip, and we were so different. Cecilia was 11 years younger than me, didn’t want children, and lived about as far away from me as possible.

Before I could retract or mumble an excuse, she said yes. My heart knew this was meant to be, even as my head worried about the complications.

Back in Melbourne, my friends were shocked. “Are you sure about this?” my best friend asked. “What about the boys? They’ve never even met your dates before.

He had a point. My post-divorce life had been a delicate balance of running a business and being a dad. Mornings meant client meetings, afternoons were school pickups, and evenings were spent trying to think of a way to trick my kids into eating vegetables. Now, I was throwing a potential long-distance relationship into the mix. 

Although I had dated in the years since my divorce, my sons had never met any of my partners. How would they react to the woman with the American accent living with us for two weeks?

When Cecilia arrived, my sons stood behind me, unsure of her. “Hello,” they eventually mumbled shyly. To my relief, they took to her quickly. Soon, they were teaching her Australian slang and asking for stories about Texas. Perhaps it was the happiness they could see on their father’s face, or more likely, it was the chocolate and ice cream she bought them. Whatever it was, we were all happy. After two weeks, we knew there was more to this story and decided to try long-distance dating.

The two of us with my twin sons on their high school graduation day.
The two of us with my twin sons on their high school graduation day.Courtesy Ash Jurberg

What followed was a crash course in creative connection. We wrote actual letters to each other, created a two-person book club, and competed fiercely in online trivia games, our heated debates adding fire to our courtship. The different time zones meant her good morning texts were my good night ones — somehow making them more special.

Then came the big decision: Nine months after we first met, and following my two visits to Texas, Cecilia agreed to move to Melbourne — not just a new city but a new hemisphere. She left behind her job, family and beloved dog to live with me and my sons.

Cecilia’s learning curve was steep. The first dinner she made for my parents was a bowl of Texas chili, complete with jalapeños. While my dad loved it, the rest of us could barely manage a mouthful — the heat too much for these Aussies not used to spice. It took time to settle in, but over the months, she adjusted, combating her homesickness with FaceTime calls and regular visits back home.

Then COVID hit, turning our international love story into an isolation story. Cecilia couldn’t visit Texas for two years as Australia closed its borders. She missed weddings, birthdays and Christmas with her family. It was challenging, and I felt guilty. 

I thought this could be the breaking point — the moment she realized the cost was too high, and she would move back to Texas. Instead, she was more determined than ever to enjoy her new life with her new family. 

On our wedding day.
On our wedding day.Courtesy Ash Jurberg

Now, 10 years later, we are married. I’m often asked if I knew it would work out; the truth is, I didn’t. It was a risk to ask a stranger to fly to Australia, but with great risk comes great reward. Watching Cecilia show my sons how to make queso while they teach her the rules of Australian football, I’m glad we beat the odds to make it work. We even add jalapeños to our meal, proof that we’ve all adapted to change.

And that delayed flight home? Best decision I ever made.

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