Why Do We Hate Grocery Shopping?

Every Tuesday and Saturday, a collection of independent mom–and–pop vendors set up shop around Rittenhouse Square, transforming the park into a bustling marketplace. It’s not the produce that stands out—standard fruits, meats, and eggs that could just as easily be found in any grocery store—but rather the demographics of the crowd. Young people flock to these markets in droves. 

While farmers’ markets exemplify a new culture that values shopping sustainably, small, and fresh, it goes deeper than that. Young people don’t just want fresher eggs; they’re seeking an escape from the modern grocery store and the “grocery store anxiety” that often accompanies it. 

Our beloved ACME Markets and Trader Joe’s look nothing like they did 20 years ago. They’re bigger, busier, but paradoxically, more stressful. At first glance, more options may seem like a win. But, that the freedom quickly morphs into decision paralysis; enter the paradox of choice. 

With so many options, it’s easy to overthink: “Should I get the whole, non–fat, or Greek yogurt? Which brand? Is there even a difference?” More often than not, shoppers leave without even coming to a decision. And when a decision is made, the question remains whether its the right one.  Sure, your Chobani tastes good … but what if Fage would’ve tasted better? The only outcome of a grocery trip that’s guaranteed is anxiety, dissatisfaction, and an abnormally long time spent standing in front of the yogurt aisle. 

Grocery shopping has the potential to be be fun—a semi–adventurous weekly quest or, at least, an easy escape from campus. But, it’s only an escape when it’s on your terms: when you want, where you want, and under no obligation. 

Historically, women have been stuck with this never–ending chore. Today, 78% of women self–identify as their household’s primary shopper. The average grocery trip in the United States is a little over 40 minutes. If you include travel time (about 15 minutes each way) and the fact that grocery shopping is done, on average, 1.5 times a week, a woman spends close to six hours a month grocery shopping. This may not sound like much, but each trip is filled with a rush of micro–decisions. The decision fatigue that builds up every week from facing rows and rows of indistinguishable products has small but serious implications for wellbeing. 

Interestingly, men are increasingly identifying themselves as the primary grocery shopper in their household—a 19% increase over the past decade. Coupled with the trend of delayed marriages, this has resulted in an increase in the number of single men trying to navigate the grocery store on their own. The implications of this are obvious in the way grocery shops have adapted; they’ve become more masculine.

Men and women approach grocery shopping differently. Men tend to be more short–term thinkers, focusing on immediate needs—reminiscent of the hunter mentality. They’re also more likely to buy what catches their eye—think increased technology and self–checkout designed to appeal to efficiency–loving men or grouping together complementary goods like wine and wine glasses to make the shopping process easier. Yet there’s a downside to this testosterone–fueled shopping evolution. It has increased the prevalence of health and fitness products in stores. While this may seem like a positive change, it’s contributing to a much larger issue. 

The rise of health–focused products often feeds into unhealthy obsessions with food. In the past five years, eating disorder–related health visits more than doubled for those under 17. Grocery stores are increasingly becoming a battleground for our insecurities. Every product screams for attention: “low–carb” this, “sugar–free” that, “guilt–free” indulgences. The pressure to eat clean, be fit, and live up to unrealistic health standards has made grocery shopping feel more like a test of character than a simple errand. 

We’ve all been there at a restaurant, opening the menu and having to decide between what we want to eat versus what we think we should eat. Grocery shops magnify this issue tenfold. Will anyone judge me for buying cookies? Will these organic bananas turn me into a better person? Grocery shopping isn’t just about food anymore—it’s about our identity. Every purchase feels like a shout to the world about your values, your morals, and your worth. What type of person are you, based on the contents of your grocery cart? It’s a subtle yet constant performance, and it takes its toll. 

I’ve fallen into this trap too many times before. I’ve filled my cart with all the “right” foods—healthy, organic, sugar–free—proudly walking through the aisles to check out, only to come home and realize I didn’t actually buy anything that would make up a balanced meal. Am I really going to snack on raw carrots all week long?

And it’s not just in the grocery store. It shows up in the dining hall when you’re trying to resist the allure of the grill section for a salad instead. Somewhere along the line in the quest to be “healthy,” we’ve developed a worse relationship with food than before. Here’s the truth: Food isn’t inherently “good” or “bad.” 

There’s layers to grocery store anxiety; it’s a complex, often overlooked phenomenon. Each factor might seem trivial on its own—bigger stores, confusing layouts, or the pressure of choosing the “right” product—but when combined, it’s no surprise that young people are quietly opting out of the grocery shopping experience, even if they themselves can’t quite put their finger on why. Contrast this with the atmosphere at a farmer’s market. There’s just something so freeing about it; it’s almost an escape. The limited selection simplifies choice. The experience feels curated: small, fresh, and sustainable. Shared values bind vendors and patrons together—everyone there, whether shopping or working, wants to be there. 

There’s no subtle competition between shoppers, a stark contrast to the subtle judgments we sometimes pass in grocery store aisles. But if we zoom out, how often have you really judged someone else’s grocery cart? Grocery store anxiety is real, but it’s not the store itself that’s the enemy. There are many ways to improve our shopping experience—do it online, go during off-peak hours, or bring a friend. Take back control and force it to be enjoyable, because at the end of the day, it’s just groceries.